A friend shared with me her family feud. Her jobless brother moved in to stay with them temporarily but somehow, he didn’t even bother to go look for a job. It’s been a year and he and his family basically free loads in her house. Further the brother’s wife really took over the household as if she’s the owner and treated their maid of 10 years, whom they care for like a family member, like a dog.
Some people simply don’t know what “gratitude” is.
Her story reminded me of what happened to my family some 20 years ago. At that time, I was still in secondary school when my mom’s cousin brothers moved in to stay with us. One of them worked at the UK’s psychiatric ward so he was a little off in his minds. The other brother is a vagabond as at age 50, he still hasn’t got a proper job to his name. He basically lives off this brother in UK.
So, when the insane brother is sick and couldn’t work anymore, he suggested him to return to Malaysia for good. Instead of going back to their own siblings, they turned to us instead because NONE of the siblings offered the two a place to stay.
My first aunt, Aunt Kim told us, we cannot turn them away. Before Aunt Kim started her hair salon, she went to Ipoh to learn hair styling. Turned out, her hair styling aunt in Ipoh abused her by just asking her to wash the hair towels with bleach until both her hands were infected with eczema. After work, she had to help out in the kitchen to cook and worse, had to wash all the dishes and also the clothes of the family. It’s basically a free maid service. The abuse went on for a year and Aunt Kim didn’t learn anything at all but both her hands were coarse and skin peeling from the endless washing.
Then, the mother of these two siblings took charge. Let’s call her 2nd Kim Poh. 2nd Kim Poh scolded the hair styling aunt and decided to take my first aunt under her wings. 2nd Kim Poh sent Aunt Kim to go learn about hair styling with some other salons.Aunt Kim was really grateful to this aunt who helped her. In return, Aunt Kim always helped her in the kitchen and also household chores. After a year, Aunt Kim returned to Port Weld to start her hair salon. Unfortunately, before my Aunt Kim could repay her kindness, 2nd Kim Poh died.
In order to repay the kindness shown by the siblings’ mom, Aunt Kim decided to take both the siblings in. Eventually, the psychotic uncle was sent to Port Weld to stay because we worried for his whereabout in Kuala Lumpur if he ever gets lost. Port Weld would be smaller and easier to monitor his whereabouts.
However, we guess we were wrong. He created so much troubles being in Port Weld. Some of the things were too embarrassing to even put in this blog! The final straw that broke the camel’s back was when he threw a lit cigarette on the roof of our house and almost set it on fire!
After a terrifying 6 months, eventually, the brother sent the insane brother back to UK – since they have this unemployment benefit and also, since he worked before for the government over there, he’s entitled to pension. I don’t understand why can’t they just stay in the UK earlier for good?!
Then, some months later, the brother came back to Malaysia while leaving the insane brother alone in the UK. Not long after that, the insane brother committed suicide by jumping onto the track of an oncoming train.
The brother had to go back to UK to retrieve his body and perform final rites for him. After that incident, suddenly, all his siblings appeared out of nowhere, to show concern. Actually, more like all waiting for his insurance claims so that they could get a piece of goodies all to themselves! Seriously, I am appalled!! Where are you when your own brother needs you the most? Where are you when he’s in such terrible condition! You are his own sibling and yet you neglected him!
Well, as for my aunt Kim, she said, at least we have done our best to give the insane brother some forms of comfort, a few months before his death. She had done her best to repay whatever kindness that his mom, 2nd Kim Poh had shown her in her earlier years and she has no regrets.
May God have mercy on his soul.